Most of us don’t like conflict. Some of us even worry that if we express our true feelings, we may be seen as selfish or oppositional. Fearing rejection, we push our needs aside, but are disappointed when others don’t see us. As this cycle repeats, we may withdraw, and can be vulnerable to feelings of isolation, resentment, anger, depression, and anxiety.
Assertiveness is often confused with self-centeredness and aggression. Unlike aggression, in which one may use force to get their way, assertiveness fosters respectful communication, and tries to address everyone’s needs. Understanding the difference can pave the way to greater self expression and personal fulfillment.
You might benefit from assertiveness coaching if you relate to the following:
Find it hard to say no
Focus on pleasing others
Often put others’ needs first
Never seem to get your way
Tend to back down in conflict
Settle for less
Often second guess yourself
Resent others for taking too much
Find it hard to make decisions
Denied feelings lead to tension, isolation, depression, anxiety, anger
Through collaborative psychotherapy, we can address personal obstacles, build on your natural abilities, and, starting with easy targets, seek opportunities to practice new skills in your life.